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Adventure Life

1/8/2013

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We don’t choose life, we’re already thrown in by the deep end.
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Life’s an adventure, really. There’s something fundamentally unforeseeable and even unimaginable about it, just like in any ‘real’ adventure that we may choose to embark on. The only difference is that we don’t choose life, we’re already thrown in by the deep end.

Are we prepared for adventure? 

My parents never transmitted the required mindset to me. They aren’t the adventurous type, even though they’re both quite courageous and definitely unconventional. So I’m having to learn my adventure skills as I go along. The latest opportunity was what turned out to be a three-day power outage during which a friend from Montreal was visiting. She brought her camping stove and treated it as a camping weekend with some added bonuses like a real bed that was guaranteed to stay dry and other creature comforts that didn’t depend on electricity or running water. As the host, I was a lot more in the spirit of trying to keep things going somehow … not exactly a very adventurous attitude!

So what’s the spirit that would transform life into an ongoing adventure? It all depends how we respond to the unknown, unforeseen, and unpredictable. Most people’s default response to the unknown is fear. Some fear responses are inbuilt into our bodies, and some nervous systems respond more easily with anxiety than others. A lot of it, though, is a learned response. As children we experienced the alarm of adults around us and thus learnt what we had to be afraid of. Fear has survival value, as it teaches us to keep ourselves safe. But when we respond to everything with fear and its inevitable companion, the attempt to stay in control, the spirit of adventure never develops.

One of the meanings of adventurous is ‘willing to take risks or try out new methods, ideas, or experiences’. So in the face of the new and unknown there is a readiness to stay open to the challenge of that situation. Fear then transforms into excitement and thrill. We may still tremble, but we now feel powerfully alive in the midst of unknown possibilities. We’re prepared to discover ourselves in new ways, to learn and develop new skills, to experience whatever arises. That’s the true spirit of adventure.

Now we usually think of adventures as happening in far away corners of the world or in wild and untamed parts of nature. But we can find them inside, too. All it takes is a willingness to not respond in habitual ways, which ultimately boils down to accepting that you don’t know what to do. So next time you find yourself in one of those situations where you usually do try to stay in control – especially one where you’re afraid or don’t like what’s going on – see whether you can treat it as an adventure instead. Then who knows what you’ll discover in this new-found spirit of living life as an ongoing adventure! 

2 Comments
Sandra Jean McPhee
1/8/2013 04:13:19 am

Hi, Grace. Thank you for your little nugget of inspiration. I agree totally. The adventures that we find inside, the willingness to experience and observe WHATEVER arises, including accepting that we don't know what to do at times, are the key to it all. One suggestion for a different way to consider your statement that your parents never transmitted the required mindset for adventure to you, in spite of their own courage and unconventionality. I imagine that they must have also experienced periods of not knowing along the way, and persevered nevertheless. My experience of you is that you are VERY adventurous, in many ways. I hope that you're not mistaking your own sense of not knowing what to do at times with a lack of adventurousness. Also there is the possibility that it wasn't your parents' failure to transmit, but perhaps your own inability to receive, or to recognize that you had received? Perhaps adventurousness is something that can only be implanted in seed form and that each of us has to nurture it for ourselves, in our own way. I say this because even though my parents are both gone now, and I didn't always appreciate it during their lifetimes, my understanding of their particular expressions of adventurousness continues to grow, and humble me, today. Happy rest of the summer to you! XOXO

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Grace
10/9/2013 06:37:57 am

Hi Sandra,
thank you for your comment! And, yes, it's true that our appreciation of our parents continues to grow with time! As children, they are just our world. As we grow and evolve, we keep looking back at this world, and we'll keep seeing and hopefully appreciating new and different things. Our parents are a world to discover... an adventure of sorts!

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