Stay open to things falling into place in ways that you simply couldn’t have dreamt of before, and then who knows what will happen?
I’ll come back to it in a moment.This year’s winter is tough on us. The colder and snowier the winter, the more of our energy it takes to deal with it: shoveling snow, staying warm, keeping in good spirits. Conversely, the less energy we have for our day-to-day life, work, and projects, including the famous New Year’s resolutions. So the good intentions we had for this year may already be falling by the wayside. Victims of a hard winter? Not only, of course, but it does take energy to focus, and when our energy is taken up elsewhere it’s definitely harder to pursue our new goals and projects.
So let’s take a moment to be kind with ourselves. Let’s allow ourselves to be human-all-too-human without berating ourselves or giving ourselves bad grades. A rough winter is enough of a challenge, there’s no need to add insult to injury.
So as the weeks of this New Year pass, we face some or maybe even all of our resolutions falling apart. But wait a minute: maybe they’re simply falling into place? Maybe, or even definitely, it makes more sense to start the fitness class once my shoulder is in better working order again? Maybe your resolution needs to be scaled down a little bit to become realistically feasible? Maybe we need to find ourselves some help in putting a resolution into practice?
When we experience things falling apart, whether it is New Year’s resolutions, new projects, or more serious things like jobs or marriages or homes, it’s easy to get stuck in that experience or even generalizing it to all of our lives. So we’re not just failing to get on with this project, we’ve always been a failure. We’re not just having relationship trouble, we’ve never been good at relationships, and so on. Allowing the mind to go down that slippery slope is a fast track into very depressive states. Please don’t do that to yourself, it’s pure poison for the soul!
The important thing, then, is to keep an open mind instead of getting stuck in what seems to be a negative experience. Stay open to things falling into place in ways that you simply couldn’t have dreamt of before, and then who knows what will happen?
Happy winter to you all!